In Remembrance

* I along with my DH wrote this for Memorial Day 2011. I would like to post it again in honor of an American solider who died serving his country in Vietnam.  Ray was one of my husbands best friends –  every Memorial Day my husband’s thoughts went to the boy he grew up with and to the letter he received telling of his friends death.  Ray was an all American young man who left behind a special legacy to all who knew, respected and loved him.  Today – Memorial Day let us remember Ray and all of the special young men and women who gave their lives in service to our nation. ~ Patty May 27, 2013 *

Decoration Day officially became a holiday May 5, 1868 to honor those who had died in both the Union and Confederate Armies.  Prior to that, one of the many stories of that first Decoration Day was that a group of children somewhere in the south started to put flowers on the graves of the soldiers. In 1868 mourners honored the Civil War
dead by continuing the tradition started by the children by decorating the soldier’s graves with flowers.  

After World War I – which was the war to end all wars, observers began the tradition of honoring the war dead from all the wars and the name was changed to Memorial Day sometime after World War II.

Today my husband Tom and I would like to remember SGT Raymond Paul Kurtik July 3, 1949 to July 7, 1969, who served with the 7th Cavalry, 1st Cavalry Division, USARV  in Vietnam.

Tom remembers the young boy that grew up to save the lives of many men.  He remembers meeting Ray in the first grade and from that first day they became very good
friends.  Ray was a normal all American boy, doing all the things boys from the 1950’s and 1960’s did.  Both of them grew up and graduated high school together.  Ray volunteered for the US Army and Tom volunteered for the US Navy. Both of them stayed in touch as Ray left for combat in Vietnam. Tom remembers how dirty the letters were when he received them.  Then the day came when Tom’s last letter sent to Ray was returned with a note from a Major informing him of Ray’s death.  Tom stated that when the news hit him it was unreal.  The thought of his good friend dying at the age of 20, even if he is serving at a combat zone, did not cross his mind.  The reality of it was made more difficult knowing he could not attend Ray’s funeral because Tom was also serving overseas and would never see Ray again.

For years Tom had many unanswered questions and had always wanted to know about his friends Vietnam service.  Special thanks go to Dave one of the brave soldiers who served with Ray that provided Tom with much information, and to his Squad Leader who posted this on June 26, 2000 from a Vietnam Memorial website:

Ray was the Bravo Team Leader on this one particular day.  And as his Squad Leader
stated they would become not just comrades in arms but they would become friends, and “that is the best you can say about a fellow infantryman”. 

“Several other soldiers don’t know it, but he (Ray) saved our butts, at LZ VIVIAN. One whole side of the LZ came under full attack, 15 minutes of Mortars, then Sappers,
followed by Infantry.  When the Sappers and Infantry broke through the wire in front of our bunker, Ray hopped up onto the bunker at a full height and threw a helmet full of M26 fragmentary grenades into the enemy, turning them back from our position.  He then proceeded to successfully help me, through small arms fire (M16) and frags, fighting from the berm next to our bunker, drive back the (enemy) attacking the next bunker. Today, I still vividly remember that long night and my friend Ray.”

Dave wrote to Tom explaining what happened on the fateful day of July 7, 1969

“…The day Ray died was supply day or LOG day as we called it. 
The area we were in was triple canopy jungle and there were no clearings
large enough to bring in the supply helicopter. The most open area we could find had several large trees the needed to be removed.  The trees were prepared and
blown. Unfortunately one tree was larger than anticipated or it fell the wrong
way, and Ray died instantly….”

 “Those serving in the infantry were the fewest of any MOS’s in the Army”, Ray’s Squad Leader went on to tell us, “at the height of our involvement in Vietnam, there were 500 thousand US Army troops stationed there but of those only 10,000 were infantry.”   

Ray was the boy next door, just like many other thousands of young men who fought and   died over the centuries to preserve our way of life or to liberate the oppressed from other countries.  There was nothing remarkable about Ray – he was a son, a brother, and a best friend.  He went to church, to school, and lived a life of a young man growing up in Pennsylvania, looking forward to his future.

It is the everyday people who become heroes by the extraordinary things they do.  Ray
saved the lives of many men.  His death was not in vain.  His purpose for being
there in Vietnam was fulfilled.  His life can be summed by this bible verse:  “I have fought
the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith” 

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43 Responses to In Remembrance

  1. gpcox says:

    My son passed away 1992 USMC, I know for us – everyday is Remembrance Day.

    • I am sorry, I am sure it is. My mother had a German saying that went something like this, “if you remember and keep your loved one in your heart they will always be with you”, my mother lost two sons, they were forever in heart.

  2. Thank you for sharing this wonderful hero with us. God bless him and all beside him.

  3. Patty, how thoughtful of you and DH to remember Ray and others like him. Your husband would be pleased to see you continue this tribute.

    Blessings ~ Wendy xo

  4. Very nice tribute to our veterans…

  5. Mustang.Koji says:

    Patty… Thank you for sharing this story of Tom’s best friend and his love of country and fellow soldiers. I am humbled and honored to have you share some of Tom’s life with us…especially given this time in your own life coupled with Memorial Day…

    • Patty B says:

      Thank you – Tom had a bracelet with Rays name and date of death on it from the VA and we made sure he had it with him. He always missed his friend.

  6. utesmile says:

    Loved ones and lost ones are always remaining in your heart, the love never dies. They just moved onto another place!

  7. Kerri says:

    Thank you! So beautifully expressed.

  8. Denise Hisey says:

    Patty, what a selfless and honorable post; especially considering all you are going through right now. Thank you for reminding us of the sacrifices so many have made.

  9. Sheryl says:

    Patty–thank you for sharing this lovely tribute with us. The soldiers in Viet Nam gave so much, and Ray’s story helps us remember all they did.

  10. Patty – Thank you for continuing your annual tradition. This is such a heartfelt piece.

    • Patty B says:

      Thank you – after much research Tom was able to find a few of Rays friends from Vietnam. He was able to tell his sister a few of the things he learned about Ray – after over 40 yrs hopefully it brought her some comfort.

  11. Dear Patty, thank you for this beautiful tribute and for taking the time to post it especially given your own circumstances at the moment. Tom would be very proud xx

  12. Dear Patty,
    Thank you for sharing Ray’s story with us. So well told. It is so important to remember those who served and sacrificed.

  13. Patti, I’ve only just caught up with your heartbreak in the last month. You must be feeling very raw and vulnerable, and I send you all my sympathy. I hope that you feel that your beloved husband is still with you, by your side, sending you comfort and strength. God be with you, valerie

    • Patty B says:

      Thank you Valerie, we are soul mates so I know my beloved is always with me. Each day I get stronger. He has prepared me in many ways and even now is taking care of me. I appreciate everyone’s prayers and thoughts.

  14. optimisticgladness says:

    Wow. What a tribute. Indeed, a hero. Thank you for sharing Ray’s story. We are blessed because of his sacrifice.

  15. gegebearbear says:

    You have been nominated for the Hug Award! Congratulations! Jill
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    http://gegebearbear.wordpress.com/

  16. What a beautiful tribute. I suppose we all know a ‘Ray’, that hopeful young man who gave all for their country. I wonder what he would have done, could have been and accomplished. I’m sure you do as well.

    • Patty B says:

      My husband always wondered what his life would have been like. He was amazed to learn these stories about him. He missed him all these years.

  17. Excellent tribute. Love never dies….

  18. Patty, this is a beautiful tribute to an exceptional young man who was your husband’s boyhood and adult friend. We’re never read for such news. My grandfather, a farmboy who hadn’t left Missouri until he went to fight in WWI, for the rest of his life remembered the fine men he served with and, unfortunately, also lost.

  19. Ray's Mom says:

    Just found your blog, and my heart goes out to you in the loss of your beloved. I enjoyed reading the story of “Ray”. God bless you.

  20. Thank you for this heartfelt post. I deeply agree with what you said: his life was not in vain. He finished the race, and he kept the faith. As someone who recently lost a 20 year old man in my own life, but through very different circumstances, may we find strength in the old saying, ‘To live on in hearts we leave behind is not to die.’ I salute you and your husband for honouring and remembering Raymond, always.
    Blessings, Gina

    • Dearest Patty, I do wish I had read your posts in the order which they were posted rather than going backwards, for I would have worded this comment above differently. I do still honour how you both chose to remember his friend. Bless your heart.
      And may you truly find some strength in that old saying, especially now.
      With deepest sympathy for your loss, Gina

      • Patty B says:

        Thank you Gina, I am beginning to find ways to honor Tom as well. I remember him telling me a few years ago that it still seemed so surreal that his friend had been killed in Vietnam. I have been deeply touched by the concern and comfort I have received from my wonderful blogging friends.

  21. Dilip says:

    Thank you for a touching tribute to Ray a courageous man who lived up to the highest military traditions. As a military man myself I salute Him.

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